What comes up for you when you're faced with a situation, any situation and despite the best intentions, it's turning a bit weird, a little distorted and never how we had intended it to be?
The visual I get is one of those wacko distortion mirrors in the theme parks, where we become elongated, a wriggly face or even worse still, squeezed in half !
Or you're possibly imagining yourself or not, being the person in the image above, contemplating what it would be like, to walk out and casually sit yourself down on the edge of this rock ledge and swing your legs with delight!
Are you freaking out at the thought or grinning ear to ear. If it's more like a freak out...what's coming up for you then?
Similarly, when circumstances feel like their becoming a bit like the distortion mirror, you know all bent up and out of shape, we could choose to look and see things in a different way.
Thinking about it, or maybe not thinking about it, it comes down to this.
what am I looking at ... what do I see?
And what is the distinction between to look and to see?
- To look at something means to gaze your eyes upon or acknowledge its presence.
- To see, one does look at the object AND also understands it and pays attention to it.
If it's considering the opportunity to be amongst the beauty of this magnificent landscape then it's definitely looking past the fear to see the beauty and to revel in it's glory.
A person who looks is possibly just living as life passes him by, but a person who sees and can find the beauty in the little things, actually enjoys their life.
So how do we create the space to go beyond looking to truly see what's to be seen?
A few ideas shared by friends that open my mind to see.
- Lighten up to laugh and smile with others more often.
- Put the stick down, no beat ups, I'm doing the best I can.
- Tune into positive media, tune out the rest.
- Visualize what I want to happen.
- Encounter something negative, I look for the positive.
- Picture that a shift in mindset just might be taking place.
- Be grateful more often.